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My romantic life is a bit disappointing to me, extremely long story short: I have a tendency to go after the wrong kind of girl. It's the same story over and over again. I'm the male equivalent of a girl who dates a douche-bags. The girl I typically go for is usually extremely socially active, so that it becomes a major accomplishment if she devotes time to me. They often have issues in some way, that they self-medicate with excessive partying and male attention. Now I'm three years single, because the girl I go after is hard to keep, so you can have a few dates but it never progress in to a relationship.
And whatever motivated this before, "The thrill of the hunt" or whatever, is not satisfying anymore. So now I want to move away from this, and find a girl who is more like me already. Not some wild animal I want to tame to become like me down the line. Problem is that I have no idea how to go about this. Like, how do you meet a girl who prefers to stay in and read a fantasy novel instead of doing body shots of tequila in a bar?
I think one major reason I have gone after "bad girls" is because they are available, I see them, I hear them, they don't take commitment so serious so they can fool around without it ever meaning anything to them. The one thing I can think of is to go to some comic book store, but I feel uneasy about trying to pick someone up "in the daylight" I have never done that before, and I don't know if my attempts will be appreciated. Basically, I want do do a full since what I have been doing so far is not working out for me.
But I don't know how, so what advice can you give me to reach my desired outcome? TL,DR I want to stop dating party girls and date a girl who is more like me already, but I don't know where to meet and how to "attract" that kind of girl. Net dating - gonna have a higher percentage of non-party girls than you meet in a bar. That and friends of friends. I think the comic book store has the issues you describe, equally bookstore etc. That said approachign someone cold is probably good for getting used to hitting on non party girls.
As i recall you are a pretty smart cookie, if you realise the change in what you want that alone should help. You may need to recalibrate your 'game' though as 'game' works less well on people you are talking about. Honestly if you were my friend and told me this i;d push you in the direction of appropriate women.
Mm I'd be wary of the comic book store idea, because a great many but not all comic book stores are often pretty anti-women, not in that they are aggressive towards women, but women are often treated as inferior beings who don't know what they're talking about etc and are often subjected to dehumanizing unwanted sexual attention, such as leering and creepy comments. A woman being approached in this environment would only get creeped out further. Many women just want to get their purchases and get out of the unfriendly situation.
If you're very familiar with your local store and are confident that this is NOT the case there, then go for it. But if it's a store typically patronized by male geeks who do not have much access to women and may or may not smell, I would avoid it.
I've had several solid, years-long relationships from online dating, that didn't work out due to deeper differences wanting kids vs not wanting kids, etc. I would highly recommend OKCupid and Plentyoffish. Good question. Bookstore, chess club, alternative sports kickball, roller derbyreddit meet ups. Seconding online. It is difficult to meet introverts out in the open. I should know I am one, and it's difficult for me to start talking with strangers -- but more importantly, it's difficult for me to keep conversations going. Dude, don't discount OKCupid. It is a free dating site with a large user base, so it's kind of a crap shoot out there.
But there are a lot of cool, interesting people on it, and you can find basically any type of girl you want. It is also appealing to the types of girls you mention, because it allows them to flirt a little and meet people without the pressure of in-person game until you want to. I met my girlfriend on that site, and 2 years and a cross-country move later, we are still together and having a ridiculous amount of geeky fun. Bookstores, concerts, coffee places. Do you live in a big city?
You should be able to find a listing of off-the-beaten-path activities. A lot of cities also do meetup. You could find some cool new hobbies at the same time. I think the best way to go about it is trying to find another set of friends whose social activities don't revolve around bar-hopping.
You also need to make sure that you're the kind of guy a nerd-girl will go for. Are you up on the latest Game of Thrones news, all the indie games on Steam and have some interesting hobbies of your own? A magic the gathering tournament! They are rare, so you better hope your Juzam Djinn is in mint condition or at least better than everyone else! I hang around places like the library, local book stores, and relaxed cafes. That's where I see other girls like me too. If you're looking for an approach, try becoming a regular at those places, and if a girl catches your eye, try making a comment about her book assuming you know what your talking about.
As a nerdy girl who is also sick of falling for the party boy, I've taken to hanging out in libraries, bookstores, and coffee shops. Just sayin'. So I'm an extremely extroverted guy, but have never been able to get comfortable with the idea of introducing myself to a girl at a coffee shop.
What do you suggest? I'm one of those girls!
We exist and all you have to do is strike up a conversation with one of us. It's hard to just approach someone and ask them out or talk to them, but it could be worth it. Book stores and comic stores are an okay place to pick up a girl. I was once hit on in a book store. He asked me about the book I was looking at and we started chatting. I would recommend asking the girl for herthough.
I'm also a bit of an introvert myself. Problem with me being is that I like to hang out in empty bars full of old people that don't bother me. This poses a problem in meeting girls since they obviously don't hang out in these bars, and college bars irritate me.
I'm 31 and can't relate to them. But, I also dig the nerdy girls even though I look like a bouncer.
I second the online dating suggestions but would add www. I met my current SO of a year after we both were matched on OKC and went to the same bookclub from meetup. I wouldn't. It's a pay site like Match but it has a tiny user base. Not worth the money.
A friend of mine met his girlfriend at a pinball arcade. Admittedly, he lucked out - the girl outright asked him if he wanted to play something. I suppose the point is that you need to put yourself into situations where the kind of girl you want to meet will be. Pinball arcades, comic book shops, Nerd Nites, Doctor Who meetups, and so on. And yes, don't discount online dating - it tends to attract smart women. As everyone has said, online dating will be helpful.
Also, friends of friends is always one of your best bets. Try and expand your social network a bit. Meet guys and gals, and then meet their friends and their friends and so on. There will be some nerds in there. Found the internet! Sort by: best.
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